Want to be more powerful and effective at work?
Of course you do!
Read on, then, because I’m going to show you how. It all starts with…
… My Tennis Story
I was playing tennis the other night, and I just didn’t “have it.”
My returns were flabby. Lots of my shots landed “out.” And I was never in the right position to hit the ball.
My opponent was baffled. So was I. Usually, I’m a much tougher competitor.
Then–OMG!–I realized what I was doing: I was telling myself—through my thoughts—that I was playing poorly. That I felt weak. That I just didn’t “have it in me.” That I must be having an off night. And so on.
No wonder I was playing like a wimp. I was sooo thinking like a wimp. My attitude stunk.
Right then, I took mental action. I told myself I was strong. I felt my muscles grow more powerful and energized just from “hearing” my thoughts say so.
I told myself I could hit well, and I did.
I told myself that I was tough, darn tough, and I started playing that way.
I wish I could say that I went on to win all the rest of my games.
I didn’t. But I did play much, MUCH better.
And I was reminded of the importance of our attitudes and what we say to ourselves in our heads, our self talk.
Attitude and self talk matter, whether you are playing tennis or facing problems at work.
3 Tips to Whip Your Attitude and Self Talk Into Shape
Here are three tips to help you sharpen your “game” right NOW… whether that’s on a tennis court, on the job, or elsewhere in life.
- View problems as challenges, rather than threats.
See problems as opportunities to learn.
- See your successes as replicable and your failures as surmountable.
See success as due to your ability and effort. Don’t chalk them up to luck.
- Concentrate your self talk on what you CAN control.
Make a list of what you can control and another of what you can’t. Focus on the first list, what you CAN control.
(Source: Understanding Self Talk, Damon Burton & Bernie Holliday, Vandal Sport Psychology Services, University of Idaho)
There you have it: Three ways to increase your professional power and effectiveness. (These tips work for tennis, too.) Go forth and do great things!
Have YOU ever found yourself with self-talk or an attitude that didn’t serve you? What did you do about it? Leave a comment, please! I want to hear from you.
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